The Danger of Positive Thinking

Some of you’ve heard me talk about Positive Thinking before and how important it is to me, specifically to my journey through chemo. So you may wonder why I’d suggest ‘positive thinking’ is dangerous. I’d like to explain why I believe it’s dangerous as well as why things like positive affirmations and ‘support’ from friends…

Moving from Black to Beige

I’ve spent much of my life in a black box. I seldom felt I was good enough for others, I didn’t have a sense of self. I didn’t know who I was. Those feelings continued until very recently. Life in a Black Box wasn’t always dark, but the best I ever saw was a muted…

Boxes Defined

A person in a specific box doesn’t look or act a specific way. But rather they have a set of characteristics that all together allow us to see what type of box they live in. Below I’ll describe the general boxes, but remember people can fall into the areas between these boxes too. So a person…

While Mommy’s Away

Last Saturday Sarah spent the day at a gala rehearsal, in a town 3 hours south of us. I stayed home with the kids and took over. Emotions were flying high for all of us. I was worrid because the new tires for the van hadn’t come in at the shop to be installed and…

Checking in

I’m going to take a break from my studying as really I can only read so much about butterfly valves before my mind goes numb. See? Not the most exciting thing in the world. I just read 45 pages on valves and began to check out. Which gave me the idea to check in. Checking…

Pokemon GO

If you haven’t heard by now there is a new mobile app, Pokemon GO. It’s the most downloaded app world wide, it released in Canada yesterday and over 45 million people logged on! It is an Augmented Reality game using your smart device’s GPS and camera to put Pokemon into your world! You walk around…

Say Yes to Change

It isn’t easy to change. The hardest part is looking at yourself and seeing yourself the way others see you. Sometimes you don’t know what others see. Sometimes you don’t want to. Sometimes it’s particularly difficult because habits sit comfortably around your shoulders. When those habits hold you back from being who you want to…

The Misogynist in the Room

When two people get married, it isn’t just the two of them who enter the relationship. Their families of origin and their life experiences also tag along for the ride. But Ryan and I discovered our marriage also welcomed all of society into our home at the same time. I suspect the same is true for…

When Expectations Ruin Reality

As a surprise for our kiddos, we bought the coolest toy ever! Today our new MOSS Exofabulatronixx 5200 arrived bright and early this morning. Unfortunately, it arrived several hours earlier than planned. Which meant we either needed to change our plans, or enforce the current plan. We ended up enforcing the current plan. Ella and I took…

Saying “Yes”

I called this post “Saying Yes” but really it’s more important to look at why you are saying “No”. I say no a lot. Too much. I know this and over time I find I say it less and less and when I do I have to have a solid reason to back it up….

Micro-Moments

When we began this blog, we were just starting the journey to changing our day-to-day lives. We had many goals, and many changes to make. I’d like to take a moment to reflect on where we’ve come from and how far we still have to go. First, even when things were bad, we thought our…

First Breakup

  Early friendships are so important for so many reasons. Early friendships help teach children how to treat others, how to be a good friend, and what kind of friend not to be. And sometimes, these early friendships teach a child how to walk away. Ella’s had a tough time with the neighbour girl for…