Daddy Time!

With a renewed effort to spend time with the kids and fill up their love cups the kiddos have been asking me to play video games with them. They know it’s something I enjoy and by their reluctance to shut off the computers it’s something they enjoy as well! With children ranging from ages 9…

Spa Day

I’m not a morning person. I might roll out of bed at 7 each day (or 4 like today) and I might function to some extent, but I don’t enjoy it. Most days that’s not a problem, but two Thursdays a month it is. Twice a month we have food coop. Along with several other…

i love lists

I love lists! Goals for the next 10 years? Written in a list. Trip plans? Written in about 20 lists. Things to remember. Gift ideas. Schedules. Wardrobe items we have and items we need. I have lists for everything and I love it! When I’m trying to figure something out, I write lists, comment on…

Initiative and Belonging

Maslow taught us about the hierarchy of needs. During chemo, surgery, and recovery, we focused on physiological and safety needs. Yes, we still loved our children, but we loved them in our way, not necessarily the way they needed in order to feel loved and maintain a sense of belonging. Over the past few months we’ve…

Squee!

I’m so excited!! I sent a message to Dr. Valter Longo, and he responded!! I could barely get my own profs to respond when I was in university, and my grades depended on it! But I sent a message and he responded to me, quickly! I wanted to thank Dr. Longo for his research on…

Slumber Party!

Tonight we have six little girls in a heap on our living room floor. We also have a pile of paint on our (carpeted) office floor and on our piano,  a pile of uneaten food on the table, in the kitchen, on the floor, and my workshop (AKA bedroom) door is locked because some children don’t…

Parenting’s as Easy as Accepting Love

Parenting is intense. I know most people use the word ‘hard’, but I think that’s incorrect. Parenting’s pretty simple. Treat your children as you’d like to be treated, and when you don’t, apologize. Pretty simple. But the intensity of the emotions involved can knock a person to their knees and leave them pleading. For what…

Ups and Downs of a Day

    Yesterday, Ella asked if her best friend could spend the night on Friday. I said yes. Today they’re not friends anymore. Agatha’s now best friends with the girl and wants to have a slumber party on Friday. Ella may kill her. In other news, my heather’s blooming, my currant bush is so full of…

Saying Yes to Joy

When you think about your life, do you see joy? I mean real joy? I’d love to say my life is one moment of joy after another, or even that my life has joy in it. But it hasn’t really had any joy at all over the past few years. Starting today, that’s going to change!…

Teaching Children the Value of Money

The fastest way to teach children the value of money is to give them money, and a lot of it. Don’t worry, we don’t give them a lot all at once, but we do give them a large allowance. They get the same amount of spending money per month as Ryan and I do. We’ve…

Raspberry Marshmallow Fluff

Yesterday I had left over egg whites and I promised I’d make something with them today. And it was AH-mazing!! Three egg whites weren’t enough for pavlova, I didn’t want to make a cake to go with my all time favourite frosting (boiled frosting), I made a million meringues recently. I wanted something different. Google didn’t…

When Divorce isn’t the Answer

Over the years Ryan and I came very close to divorce many times. Most recently a few months ago. But first, a bit of context. He’s a man, I’m a woman, and we both grew up with learned behaviour traits and responses that didn’t mesh well. I’m not sure either one of us could really…